When I was learning to drive, one of my first problems was learning to stay in the lane. First it would be, ‘you’re too close to the gutter!’ Then, ‘you’re too close to the centre!’ 

The instructing person (usually one of my parents) would get progressively more agitated that I wasn’t heeding their warnings. I would be checking each side, thoroughly confused as to what I was doing wrong and how to get it right. 

My first professional instructor was even less helpful. She said, ‘Bronwyn, you look but you don’t see. You listen but you don’t hear.’ Finally, one day I yelled at her: ‘I don’t know what I am meant to be seeing or hearing! Stop telling me that and just tell me something helpful!’

After that I changed driving instructors.